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3,675 Miles

It is 3,675 miles from my front porch to Hamm, Germany, plus or minus a mile or two, to the exact location where my son Jack is at this very moment. Here is what I received via text this morning: Let me explain: On Christmas night we packed Jack for the trip to visit friends in Hamm, Germany.  Jack has remained close to the students that visited us here in October of 2016.  What a wonderful experience for Jack, Caroline…

Recipe for a college student’s mom

Today’s weekly recipe post diverts from the usual pizza, brownie or pasta recipe. This is much more crucial to feeding the human spirit.  It is a recipe for being a mom with children in college and an Italian mother at that.  Please don’t misunderstand me.  I am not excluding dads, I’m just speaking to the mothers right now. I am not a novice baker or cook in this regard.  I have a college Junior in Rochester, NY at Rochester Institute…

College living- I’d forgotten…

I am in Rochester this week with my daughter as she begins her transition from campus living to off campus living.  She and her four roommates have been living in a beautiful three level townhouse, fully furnished and with a washer & dryer.   They do not know the schlep of going to a laundromat and fighting for a dryer nor do they have to break into the apartment across the hall to steal a roll of toilet paper. (Remember that…

Campus Life (for you Pete)

I was waiting for Amelia on campus this morning before going to visit a client in Rochester.  I saw her walking towards me and no longer saw a young Amelia. I saw a young woman on a college campus no longer in need of a mother for typical mom duties. We greeted each other and headed to her apartment. Amelia lives with a group of girls and one guy, Pete. Pete was vacuuming when we got there. I don't ever remember…

She’s on her way.

This weekend we will move Amelia out of her dorm after completing her freshman year. I see all these Facebook posts from friends and family that are doing the same.  We share a sense of accomplishment as parents quite different from that same sense our children experienced. What happened these past 10 months.? Who grew, Amelia or us?  I think we both did. I think we learned to live in a space new to us both. Separation. Trust. Independence.  An…