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Chip….

For the very first time, I am at a loss for words.  Thank you all for your calls, texts, and hugs. Anthony J. Lombardo, Jr, aka “Chip,” 58 of Niskayuna, NY, and recently Canandaigua, NY, passed away suddenly at Strong Memorial Hospital.     There are no words to summarize Chip’s life except to say that he was a beautifully unique person who loved his family with his whole heart. Chip worked hard in his businesses and strived to help young…

Death And Dying Of A Parent

Grief is the price of love

One of the amazing women in my squad lost her dad on May 3, 2021. She wrote this passage and sent it to me entitled Musings. For some reason, I never drafted the post from her email to me. On June 7th, this past Monday, she lost her mother five weeks to the day. Her mom had Alzheimer’s and was unable to communicate.  My friend went to her mom after her dad passed away with a picture of her wedding…

Life is a series of hellos and goodbyes

As we move through our lives, we pass through a series of hellos and goodbyes. We come and go throughout the day, not thinking about the joy of a new hello or the sometimes finality of a sad goodbye. As I prepare for our move from the home where we raised our children to a temporary home in the Finger Lakes without them, my goodbyes are slowly outnumbering my hellos. Tillie. We recently adopted Tillie, a 2-year old bulldog. She…

Everyone needs a squad. WWW.

It has been my experience that every person needs a squad. Your squad is your people. The person or persons you text at 11am when you are stressed about work or the group you cannot wait to share your news with. It is the ultimate no judgment zone, the group hug, and it’s going to be okay feeling. Dogs get it. They have a pack, and it is their version of a squad. A group of people or a person…

Now I get it.

When I was first married, I could not understand why couples struggled in their relationship in later years. The kids are gone, hopefully on to successful lives, and retirement is looming. You have made it through the hard part. The challenges of raising kids while keeping committed to your relationship are behind you. Children require time, effort, and energy, and I always thought the energy would return to being a couple. Then it happened- COVID and remote working. The kids…